Each gender, however, has a unique way of dealing with them. Men are more likely to self-sabotage a relationship with outward actions, such as cheating, inconsistency or emotional unavailability, whereas women often silently self-sabotage relationships by denying themselves of their happiness or acting upon limiting beliefs. For a lot of women, our early experiences of relationships affect our attitude and behavior towards love. If your experience of love in the past was shaped by men that would leave, cheat, or make you feel unwanted, chances are high that you will develop a tendency of expecting that same behavior in the future. While most women sabotage a relationship subconsciously to protect themselves from the anticipated pain of rejection or abandonment, it is, unfortunately, these assumptions lead to self-destructive behavior in relationships. In this blog post, I want to shed a light on how women self-sabotage relationships and the primary behaviors women engage in that lead to the end of a relationship.
Self-Sabotage: How We Stop Ourselves From Dating Successfully
Why Men Self-Sabotage Relationships and How They Do It
Learn the honest, non-sleazy way to attract high quality partners. The first few months of a connection are exhilarating. Most of the time, their partners are incredible. They have wonderful dates together and great sex. Then, out of the blue, that woman begins to act very differently. Almost uncharacteristically so.
Things were going great during the first 3 months of your relationship. But when your partner brings up the idea of having an introductory dinner with their parents, all the good feelings you had suddenly take a mass exodus. As the days go by, all of their cute quirks become annoying flaws, and your long conversations turn into short, cold exchanges. Soon, you grow further and further apart until your relationship becomes just another acquaintance.
People will respond to this in a variety of ways, most commonly placing the blame on surface pressures, but it's actually the way we speak to ourselves about dating that could be the real answer to this query. Self-compassion and self-awareness are the first steps in attracting and developing a positive relationship. Self-sabotaging behaviours are usually based on fear and while people adapt these as a means of self-protection, often they can actually prevent dating success rather than guaranteeing it. These can arise from fear of rejection, vulnerability or being hurt again and giving up independence or happiness.